Writer's Block

I am currently having a writer's block........c",)

BY FEELINGS OR BY STANDARDS.................Re-blogged(from friendster blogs.......January 5, 2009(

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A World Apart................Re-blogged(from friendseter blogs.....Feb. 9, 2009)

Just my second blog. This is not actually mine, though. Just sharing the situation currently experienced by this very good friend of mine. His experience now might happen to me also, so, I opted to have it here with you.

The title of this blog might mislead you, coming to the impression that I’m referring to, well, two individuals separated by thousands of mile. Truth is, I’m actually referring to age gap. And according to our society, 10 to more years of gap is a big difference.

So what I am talking about? This friend of mine is very much in love with an 18 year old. Their gap is, 13 years. You could compute for his actual age. Coincidentally, that happens to be my age too.

Now here’s the concern. How can he say to this very smart, good natured, well mannered and beautiful lady that he is in love with her? How can he make it look like their age can just be ignored? More importantly, how can he make her fall in love with him, against all the odds that would come?

It’s definitely his concern. He already talked to me once about not pursuing her. His thought, that once he expresses of his dying love for her, she might consider him too old, and it hurt his feelings even by just thinking of it. He can’t accept the feeling of rejection. He thought of just loving her in silence, opting just to maintain his good friendship with him.

And yet, I told him once, are you really sure that it is also what she feels? I mean, his thinking of getting rejected, if ever he might tell her. It might be the opposite. We never had the power to read the minds and feelings of an individual. So, it might be the opposite. She might like him too. And might have special feelings also. Hhhhmmmm……….

What should be the right thing for him to do. Tell her of his true feelings, just keep it to himself, loving her in silence?………

A Complicated Love.............Re-blogged(from friendster blogs...April 6, 2009)

LOVE …… is always a complicated thing…………… you want to love, take care of the person you want most……….. and ………….. some things just don’t turn out the way you want it to be…………………..

For a very long time I have searched for the true happiness, the one that I have really desired. I’ve been with relationships, and I can feel something is missing……and despite having a commitment…i knew something is missing……

And then I was alone…………. for a very long time………………. and in those times…………… I was looking for a new love……… hoping to find what I was really looking……..

Then I found her …………………. not just my new love……………..but she has the missing piece to my questions of what it is……………………….. and it was then that I knew what it was……………. true acceptance of her, unexplained happiness in me, and most of all, I giving the full “UNCONDITIONAL LOVE” to her……………

I am so happy of finally finding her……………………….. until complications came…………

What can I do……………… just wait………………..decision is hers…………..

I hope to win this time……..and finally have the happiness………. but if I lose, by losing her …………… then………………. i am still in the darkness of failed love………….

The Hardest Part……….

A friend of mine just asked me recently about when is the time where you experience the hardest part in a relationship. I stared at him and asked why he has to ask me about it. He just answered that he wants to know, a thing or two from me…..to keep it short, I eventually gave in to his question.

In a relationship, nothing has been easy…….most stages of it has some difficulties encountered along the way.

For me, this is the hardest part…………

The hardest part is at the start of the relationship. True, you are able to get the coveted “YES” of the woman you desire and love the most. But you have to deal with the following: the past bf’s, which some of them are giving some hints of courting back: the present suitors, who still would continue courting despite knowing that she has already one, thinking that the foundation is not yet strong: and most of all, the topmost difficulty level, dealing with the present/ex-bf/would-not-agree-with-break-up, in cases of you stealing the you love from him (most controversial).

This stage usually happens in 5 months to a year. If you can fully have your partner get over them in that period….that’s what you call a great love life.

It’s no assurance though that you will end up long enough and eventually settle down. The important thing here is, despite you knowing of these complications, love the person with all your heart, unconditionally. Cherish every moments you have, most especially the very happy times. Not to forget also the misunderstandings that were settled, that allowed your relationship to get stronger.

Needed, is the time and chance to prove to your partner, that you are really are true to her, and have all the best of intentions for your relationship. Trust and Acceptance is important. And most of all, to LOVE HER with all your HEART, UNCONDITIONALLY.

The rewards that could come can make you both that happiest couple on Earth.

This is my stand….. c”,)

Do You Believe in Signs?...................Re-blogged(May 19, 2009)

I don’t……………I never did…….

Then somebody told me to believe in it………..most especially when you are asking guidance from questions……….

I asked for it……………… Three crosses from three different churches with green lighting, seen successive in a night………. to answer if she’s the one for me, and to be with me for the rest of my remaining time here on Earth………

I was answered….. on our way together into her province…………….

But its not true………………why?………………. she chose to stay with her previous love……………..

Never Give Up?.......(Reblogged, May 24, 2009)

Most of my friends asked me why did I gave up immediately on her…..According to them, it isn’t like me to give up immediately……………they told me I’ve never been a quitter………that I always do take my chances……….

True……….i never give up easily on anything……….

It’s just that, the damage that has been brought to me lately has really rooted deep inside……………its almost “total annihilation” of my feelings………….

I didn’t give up……………………i’m healing as of the moment…………… a wounded soldier can offer nothing in a war…………except more tragedies to come………… its better to take time off and prepare myself during healing moments

In time my wounds will heal………the scars may stay…………….but that is enough to fight back………………

I’m coming back…………….

Of Traveling, Gaming, Singing, Drinking……(Re-blogged, June 3, 2009)

When you’ve been badly beaten…..to your emotions………….finding ways to get over is the perfect remedy for everything………. c”,)

Travelling to the province is great………you get to witness the beauty of nature that surrounds on your way to your destination…………. the freshness of the air, the coolness of the wind, the greenish color of the surroundings……..plus talking to very simple people who live very simple lives………

Back in the city……………online games are best………..2 versus 2, 3 versus 3………….. feel the joy of winning…………………mocking to death ur defeated enemy…………..and whenyou’re beaten.play another game till they’re defeated…………….

Night time is perfect for video karaokes……..gang up with old friends……….sing songs……………and enjoy!

Drinking……………bad for ur liver!………….. hang-overs are a waste…….. still, the saddened and frustrating emotions can still be remembered………..drinking session again…………….and waste of money……

Personal Legend and Me

Have you read the novel "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho? It's a great novel, and has been hailed as a modern classic. Wikipedia has told me that its first publication was written in Portuguese, and the Guinness World Record says it is the most translated book by a living author, after having been translated into 67 languages.

This novel is a perfect material for high school students who are to make book synthesis, or reviews. Also, it gives valued lessons for the youngsters who are still about to embark on their life's accomplishments. I was able to read the book at a most opportune time. I hardly find time to read books and novels to do away from a stressful working life.

The novel gives us the term "PERSONAL LEGEND". The book tells us it is the dream of a person to which his life's path is destined to achieve great happiness. This is the story embarked by the main character, who traveled and has experience frustrations, despair, hope, love, and even more, in his quest for the so called personal legend. The real value of his journey was not being able to achieve his personal legend, but the lessons that he has learned along the way. The pains, sorrows, joy, success, friendships were the perfect ingredients to earn the real treasure. Just as they say, PERSONAL EXPERIENCE is the best teacher for all. To value the experience, learning from it and doing things right can lead to the greatest happiness we could have ever dreamed.

On a personal note, I can relate a bit of myself partly to the story of the boy. Since I was a kid, I have been marveled by engineers and professors, with their stature in their life. I got that influence from movies, documentaries, etc. I have been awed by image they possess of knowledge with their technical fields, talking of their expertise.

I have also admired professionals with great family values. I thank my family, that even though it was not that as complete, I was guided rightfully with good moral.

So at that age, I've set my goal in life. I want to be a successful professional, in the field of engineering and sciences, being able to share with what I possess in knowledge and skills, and build my own family.

Well, that was too long ago. I'm already 33, and as far as I can remember, I was still 7 when I set that goal. What I have achieved so far; two masters degree and on the 13th year of teaching college students. I'm contented with what I have achieved so far. Still a long way to go for me.

It has been a rough and tumble road that I went through. A lot of heartache, sacrifices, misjudgment, untimely decisions, bad finances. Hope and love were the light along the way, although sometimes false hope and false love was shattering once it took place. Eventually, that ride somehow molded my maturity. This could now help me through to adapt to challenges on the road ahead.

I have learned valuable lessons from my journey. I must not be afraid to take my chances and face my fears, learn to value the simple things in life, and most of all, balance the priorities. This lessons are what is being exemplified from the novel, by the boy who have a journey on his own too.

After reading the book, so I did my reflection. I then realized that I was able to achieve what I have dreamed of. I was unconscious that I have already attained it, until that day. I was more focused on the lessons from the experiences than the reward that I have reaped from my success.

It is important that we take things slowly, and value each day as it comes into our life. Too much thinking of the future makes us forget that simplicity makes life wonderful. Not to forget humility. Too much bragging of self doesn't gain friends, but secret enemies. While taking risks might make us to lose something valuable, its better than not trying at all, and fill your life with what ifs. We should never hesitate to grab an opportunity, for it knocks only once.

We all have goals in life. Some of us might even have the same dream of who we want to be in the future. But the path to it is what varies. No matter what path we take, we must note that it is not the treasure that comes after getting to our destination that counts, but real treasure are the things and experiences that we have learned on our path to destiny.

Let me end this with the ultimate core motto of the novel "The Alchemist": "WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING, ALL THE UNIVERSE CONSPIRES IN HELPING US TO ACHIEVE IT."

Thanks for reading guys......c",)

To Increase Enrollment

Hi There!

This is a repost from my other blog site.

So to start, the title says to increase enrollment. I am referring to increasing the number of enrollees for degree programs among educational institutions. This has been currently the thrust of most colleges and universities here in Cebu.

Why is there a need for enrollment to increase? Public institutions are not affected by this. They are subsidized by the either the National or local governments. This much focuses on private institutions. It's a fact, that a high number of enrolled students is indicating a high income for the academe. A high income means a substantial increase of salary for both the teaching and non-teaching staff, and most of all, high revenues for the entities that own the institution.

High enrollment is very much determined in the freshmen level. That count can affect the population of a program for an average of 4 years(baccalaureate programs are mostly offered in 4 years). While it is an accepted fact that as the freshmen's batch decreases as it progresses to the seniors level, the decreased high number from year 1 can still be considered as high when it arrives at year 4, providing each year's down is from 5 to 10 percent.

The other effect of high enrollment? It means more teaching loads for the employed teaching staff. It assures that every faculty has to have a full load for a full timer.

Who would do the dirty job of increasing the enrollment? It is definitely the personnel who knows best, the academic staff. Though it is the administrators that gives the command or directive that each college should achieve a high enrollment each year.

When a college experiences a decrease for a year, it would just be a temporary setback. But when it continues to subside for years, say, 3 years and more, actions must be taken to bring back the high volume of students to come and enroll. Or else, teaching staff could be adversely affected by the continuous down trend.

The challenge....How or what to advertise as a marketing strategy to bring back the once high enrollment?

Produce board consistent top notch passers every year. Finish among the top 20 in any license exams. That's great. There's discussion though. It's great to advertise the top notch passers. But which is more important? Having top not passers yet fall low for the current batch of exam passers from national passing percentage? or get consistent in passing and above the national passing percentage?

It's already seen from others, that producing top notch passers is most effective.

So how to achieve potential top notch passers? Recruit top quality high school graduates. A fact, the rich of these prefer to enroll in expensive schools get better education there. For the less fortunate, scholarships are the best attracting factor.

There we go. Scholarships. One should have a very attractive scholarship program and incentives to attain this. Four to five yours to mold as an incentive... and when time comes, the fruit to reap is just around the bend.

That's probably quality education for some. And that's the factor parents stake the future of their child to.

Other academic institutions? Make a strong marketing tagline of showing immediate job here and abroad after graduation. While others offer low tuition fees, and perhaps no tuition fee increase.

How about an academe boasting of quality education, enjoyed high enrollment the previous years, yet recently has experienced a noticeable decrease in enrollment, has weak scholarship program, does not consistently produce top notch passers, yet mostly have achieved passing above national passing percentage? What could be their strategy to increase enrollment?

By the way, all the school types I've mentioned are equipped with highly qualified faculty, and very good facilities.

Please share your thoughts.